“Well, at least the baby’s healthy.”
Put your hand up if you never want to hear that again when telling someone your birth story.
You totally have your hand up, don’t you?
I get it. If your birth experience wasn’t everything you hoped for, you can feel crushed – equal parts disappointed, confused and angry. At the world. At your doctor, midwife or doula. And most of all, at yourself.
Maybe you had an (unplanned) cesarean. Maybe your home birth plans went out the window when your midwife recommended a hospital transfer. Or maybe you just felt like the whole thing was out of your control – like nobody was listening to you and your wishes weren’t being respected.
And as if that isn’t terrible enough, society and those closest to you really don’t get it.
People might say things like…
… All that really matters is a healthy mom and baby
… Why can’t you just “get over it” and get on with life?
… I don’t understand why you’re still so upset about this
Even the most well-meaning friends and family can make you feel like something is wrong with you.
Well, I’m here to tell you that there is nothing wrong with you. All of that up there? It’s called birth trauma – and it’s a very real, and very detrimental problem for mothers.
Even though you might not feel like what you went through was “traumatic” (or maybe you do) – if you’re at all resentful over the way your baby came into the world, you’re in the right place.
Yes, even the most well-planned home birth can feel traumatic, because the truth is it doesn’t matter what happened, but how you feel about what happened.
Birth trauma can affect every part of your life – from your relationships to your own inner sense of confidence. And who wants their confidence shaken just as they begin the biggest journey of their life as a mother?
How do you know if you’re suffering from the aftereffects of a disappointing or traumatic birth?
Well, you might…
- Look back on the birth of your baby and feel overwhelming shame, guilt and sadness
- Feel incredibly alone – You can’t fully express your grief over the birth experience to your family or friends because they (and society) just don’t get it
- Experience jarring flashbacks that are scary and zap your energy (and happiness)
- Find yourself obsessing over specific parts of the birth – what if I had done this, instead of that?
- Feel buried under dark and depressing thoughts (to the point where everyday life has become a chore)
- Have a short fuse, constantly feel on edge and don’t have as much patience, love and compassion for your child as you’d like (and then beat yourself up about it!)
- Feel inherently broken – You might not want to be intimate with your partner or feel extremely disconnected from them, like there’s an invisible wall between you now
- Can’t even speak about your child’s birth without breaking down or bursting into tears
- Feel like a “failure” as a woman and as a mother – this is the one thing you feel like should have gone “right” in life, and it didn’t
- Know deep down something is “wrong” – and that it’s affecting your family, but have no clue what to do about it
Sadly, lots of women are disappointed after giving birth to even the healthiest, most beautiful, babies. But a healthy baby is NOT all that matters, despite what people say.
A woman’s experience of birthing her baby is sacred and profoundly affects her for the rest of her life. It’s something that every mother deserves to come to peace with.
- If you feel like your baby’s birth has torn you (and your life) apart…
- If you’re exhausted – mentally, physically and emotionally…
- If you’re tired of crying yourself to sleep night after night, wondering if you’re ever going to feel like yourself again…
- If you just want to accept what happened – good and bad – and move on…
- If you know you need to do something to change the way you feel about your baby’s birth and yourself…
Birth Healing Coaching can help.
What is it?
A private, one-on-one coaching + holistic healing experience for mothers who had a painful, traumatic or unexpected birth.
Mothers (like you) who want to…
- Process the tornado of emotions once and for all
- Finally look back on the day your son or daughter came into the world with loving acceptance – not bitterness or regret
- Actually celebrate your baby’s BIRTHday rather than feel consumed with dread as the day approaches
- Re-build your confidence so you feel empowered as a woman and a mother
- Trust yourself to navigate motherhood intuitively and from-the-heart
- Forgive yourself and God/the universe/what-have-you for the way things went down
- Feel at peace with the choices you made during birth (forced or otherwise)
- Reconnect sexually – with your partner and your own body, on a deeper and more intimate level than ever before
- Feel like a whole person again – no longer incapacitated + able to truly enjoy life and your baby
- Cultivate a calm, patient demeanor and deep connection to your child
- Release anything that’s in the way of you being the most amazing, full-hearted mother you can be
Hi, I’m Crystal Di Domizio, and I’m a pregnancy & birth healing coach who works with women like you to heal after a disappointing or traumatic birth experience with EFT and Matrix Birth Reimprinting. (Never heard of it? Keep reading below.)
In a nutshell, I provide mothers – whose confidence, self-worth and sometimes, bodies were put through the ringer during childbirth – with a safe space to fully process all of their varied and painful birth experience emotions – without having to re-live the trauma.
For over 9 years I’ve worked specifically with pregnant and postpartum women in a variety of ways, and I’ve discovered a fascinating modality called EFT & Matrix Birth Reimprinting to be the most effective way to heal birth trauma.
As a Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner, I can help you gently and naturally release, accept and move past the staggering pain, guilt and shame that follows a traumatic birth – and land in a loving place where you’re able to look back on your baby’s birth with genuine warmth and acceptance.
How does it work? Together, we’ll walk through every layer of your birth story in a radically open, honest way (which means you can finally share the whole thing in a safe and comfortable environment. My coaching calls are judgement-free zones!). And don’t worry if what you experienced is too traumatic to even think – let alone speak – about. That’s part of what makes EFT and Matrix Birth Reimprinting so fascinating – we can drastically bring down the intensity of your emotions and release the trauma from your body (and mind!)…without you even having to tell me what happened. Seriously.
Sound crazy? It’s not. It happens with my clients every single day.
Soo, what exactly is EFT and Matrix Birth Reimprinting?
If you’re not familiar, EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique, and it’s honestly the most powerful, life-transforming tool I’ve ever encountered. Basically, EFT involves tapping on certain meridian points on the body to create profound cognitive (and energetic) shifts. It’s an incredibly easy, gentle and extremely effective way to release the overwhelming guilt, anger and fear you’re holding onto from your baby’s not-so-perfect birth.
And Matrix Birth Reimprinting? It takes all of this powerful EFT work one step deeper. Essentially, it’s an advanced EFT technique that will allow us to go back into your subconscious and help “re-birth” your baby exactly the way you wanted with love and support. So, for example, if you ended up in the hospital against your better wishes, we’ll re-imagine you had the calm home birth you desired. Then we’ll take this subconscious visualization and reimprint that positive experience into your body and mind at a deep, cellular level – so it feels real to you. That means that afterward when you go back and think about the birth, you will actually FEEL the love and joy that you wanted to feel. Think of it like an energetic do-over!
Seriously though, just imagine being able to mentally re-experience your baby’s birth with all the support, information and resources you needed at the time. And then, finally being able to reflect upon your baby’s birth with authentic joy, love and peace.
Take a look at a few of the positive, empowering and life-transforming experiences my clients have had below:
I have never experienced something so immediate and so profound so quickly
I gave birth January 11, 2013. To say it didn't go as planned is an understatement. In fact, until very recently I would explain my baby was born by emergency c section. The events surrounding her birth and her actual birth left me with intense birth trauma.
I lost sleep, I was anxious, depressed, ate poorly and did not take care of myself physically. I had vivid flashbacks, which were jarring and terrifying. I was over protective of my daughter not allowing anyone to care out of fear. This obviously put distance between my husband and myself, my friends and my family. I literally could not talk about my daughters birth without breaking down.
The experience left me feeling broken, like I failed at being a woman, I failed at being a mother. I had failed. My body failed me. I failed my daughter. I was worthless. The entire experience broke me.
At my last appointment with my midwife. She referred me to attend some trauma counselling. You are entitled to 4-5 sessions of talk therapy. Essentially a debriefing of your experience. This improved things marginally. I managed to put myself together enough to carry on with my life, care of my infant daughter and just survive. My code, never talk about her birth. Don't even think about it. It was enough to make it day by day.
Of course this survival mode can only last so long. I was miserable, moody, and short tempered. It was far from an ideal I would ever want to live.
A friend started sharing her experience with EFT and Matrix Reimprinting. She was so excited about the effectiveness and the usefulness of these tools. I figured what do I have left to lose? Absolutely nothing. She had completed her practitioner training and I signed up as a client. I did a little reading into the process, however mainly wanted a fresh experience.
I met Crystal online at our appointment time. She is always punctual! I have a lot of therapy experience face to face. I wasn't sure how Skype would work. I was with antsy surprise. Crystal’s warmth, empathy, compassion and caring transmits just as well electronically as it does in person. She takes her time and is quick to pick up on your body language when you might not be doing so well, even if you try to lie. Don't bother, she knows. Ha.
How does the process work? I slowly started telling my story. When I reached an emotionally charged point, we stopped, we talked about the layers on that memory, the emotions, the fears, the anger. I put words to things I didn't realize I had. I tapped through. As I tapped the intensity lessened. We are talking immediate results. I have never experienced something so immediate and so profound so quickly. Things which I didn't think were important came to light. And through the process things which I thought were a big deal were being dealt with subconsciously healing. I was finally healing!!!
After the first session, I noticed my mood was much more level. I was more patient and cordial with my husband. I could laugh again. Intimacy found it's way back to our marriage. I was more present for my daughter. There wasn't a wall of guilt and shame holding me at arms length from her. This was huge.
So the matrix part of things. Keanu doesn't show up, it is not sci fi related. I really can't explain it. Basically you take a memory, and you get to go back and have a pseudo "do-over". You get to gift yourself with all the love, support, information or whatever else you may have needed to have a different experience. This is then sent to your cells as your memory. Sounds a bit much right? Well honestly I can attest to it's effectiveness. This is an amazing tool. I am finally at a place where I can look back and be filled with love and warmth and support and beauty where as before I was terrified even remembering her birth. The details are still the details. All the negative emotions which were stuck in my body no longer exist.
Following sessions built upon this and created more air around her birth. I can actually discuss her birth openly and not be reduced to tears or horrific memories. Today I can say that I birthed my baby through cesarean section.
I am so grateful for these tools and I am so grateful for Crystal. I can truly say this changed my life. I very much look forward to continue working with Crystal in other areas of my life.
My physical and emotional pain have been transformed
I have had the greatest pleasure to work with Crystal in the past and was absolutely delighted to experience the power of EFT and Matrix Reimprinting with her more recently.
I was always a skeptical person and would not believe EFT could really work until I saw some spectacular results on my own 5-year-old son. Still, I did not feel ready to try it out on myself.
A survivor of severe birth trauma, EFT was a wonderful tool to add to my box of tricks as I walk on the path of resilience and recovery when I finally built up the courage to explore all its power in the company of a very good practitioner: Crystal!
With Crystal, I always felt very safe to explore some of the most difficult aspects of my trauma and my past. She is trustworthy and passionate about helping others discover their own inner capacity to heal and transcend difficult experiences. She has an open-heart and an open-mind and will always check in and make great suggestions on how to tackle some of the more difficult aspects of this work.
In just six sessions with Crystal, I have noted some amazing changes. My physical and emotional pain have been transformed and are not as incapacitating as they were before. I find myself being more available for my own children and more energetic in my day-to-day life. I feel I have made peace with some aspects of my trauma but also, and this may be the most life-changing of it all, I have learned that I can trust myself to ask for help and support. I am now giving myself permission to experience some of the deep emotions I was previously denying myself. Most of all, I am giving myself permission to be imperfect! Quite the revolution for me!
Thanks to the work with Crystal, I am exploring new ways to find balance in my life and new ways to be a better parent and a better person. As cheesy as this may sound, the EFT and Matrix Reimprinting work I did with Crystal has allowed me to see myself as worthy of self-love and acceptance.
My gratitude to Crystal for walking this path with me is immense and I would recommend her in a heartbeat to anyone who feels the need to do healing work.
The truth is: Finding peace and acceptance with your birth experience is vital to your own happiness.
When you come to terms with your baby’s birth experience, everything changes. We’re talking gaining back every ounce of self-confidence + self-love (and then some!), re-establishing sacred connection to your own intuition and revitalizing your relationships with others, including your partner and your child(ren). You’ll restore hope and confidence that if you choose, you can have another baby and experience a positive and empowering birth experience the next time around.
It’s time to stop carrying around the weight of an unhappy birth experience (which, let’s be honest, is way worse than lugging around that 20-lb diaper bag). And while we can’t actually change your baby’s birth, we can change the way you feel about it.
And the way you feel about it? Is all that really matters.
Less anxiety, more energy and motivation, prepared and excited about pregnancy and childbirth
Crystal is a skilled, intuitive and empathetic practitioner and knew exactly how to get right to the root of what I needed to address. I can’t even express how nervous I was to dig deep and how easy Crystal made it. This work is so gentle yet you experience instant results and we’ve made so much progress in our first 4 sessions. This work has changed my life and shifted things I didn’t even know were in the way. Crystal made me feel totally comfortable with the entire process.
EFT and Matrix Reimprinting is so powerful. It has really helped me to get out of my own way and respond intuitively to what my subconscious was holding on to. I had some really odd memories pop up that I would have never explored further, that ended up being the key to a major shift!
The benefits for me have been less anxiety, more energy and motivation, prepared and excited about pregnancy and childbirth. My desire to have another baby finally outweighs my fear of another pregnancy. I feel like my world has been blasted wide open in the best possible way. I am excited for all the possibilities out there. I can’t even express what this means to me. Thank you for what you do.
Ready to begin this work together? Sitting on the fence?
Let’s chat! I offer a free phone consultation. Email me I’ll get back to you within 2 business days ♥
Frequently Asked Questions:
How soon will I notice results?
Immediately! Yes, you heard that right. All my clients feel tangible shifts and changes in their thoughts and feelings within the first session. It’s not a healing modality where you walk away wondering if it’s actually working or having to wait until after a few sessions to reap the benefits. It’s one of the things I love most about EFT and Matrix Reimprinting! It’s quick, easy and gentle, yet deep and sustainable.
What is EFT?
EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique, which is a powerful, life-transforming self care tool that you can use for life. It’s amazing at bringing down the emotional intensity around certain events or triggers – birth, for example. And while yes, lots of people do basic EFT on their own, I’m a certified EFT practitioner, equipped with advanced tools and techniques that help us get to your root triggers – and melt them away like butter – faster than anybody can do alone.
What is Matrix Reimprinting?
Well, let’s start by saying it does not include Keanu Reeves. Sadly. Matrix Reimprinting is an advanced EFT technique that makes it possible for us to access your subconscious and “reimprint” more positive experiences, thoughts and feelings into your subconscious mind + body at a cellular level. It sounds fancy and woo-woo, but it really, truly works. If you’ve ever done any visualization work, you know the subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between you actually being AT a beach – or if you’ve just vividly imagined the heat of the sun on your skin and the waves crashing against your toes. Try it for yourself and you’ll see!
I’ve never worked with someone via Skype. What should I expect?
You don’t need any fancy tools or equipment (your built-in computer microphone and camera will do). There’s no traveling involved, so you’ll need a very minimal amount of childcare. I want to make this experience as easy and convenient as possible for you. If you can find 1-2 hours a week to devote to yourself and your healing, your life will radically change.
Here’s what a client had to say about working with me via Skype:
“I met Crystal online at our appointment time. She is always punctual! I have a lot of therapy experience face to face. I wasn’t sure how skype would work. I was with antsy surprise. Crystal’s warmth, empathy, compassion and caring transmits just as well electronically as it does in person. She takes her time and is quick to pick up on your body language when you might not be doing so well, even if you try to lie. Don’t bother, she knows. Ha.” Margo T.
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